Using the “Right” Words

Words are powerful. Mark Twain said, “The difference between the right word and the almost right word is the difference between lightning and the lightning bug.” This is especially true when we are talking about people with disabilities.

The wrong word has the power to hurt, devalue, and stereotype a person. These are words like “disabled,” “handicapped,” “crippled,” “special needs,” and “retarded.” Many words become labels that carry a negative connotation or are misleading. Using labels contributes to negative stereotypes and invoke pity, fear, or disgust.

The right word has the power to build up, show respect, and give dignity. The right words focus on the person, not the differences. People with disabilities are moms and dads, sons and daughters, friends and neighbors, students and teachers, scientists, reporters, doctors, actors, presidents, and more. Most importantly, they are people first.

In choosing words about people with disabilities, the guiding principle is to refer to the person first, not the disability. This is appropriately called using “People First Language.” It is the difference between saying “autistic child” and “a child with autism,” or “deaf and dumb” and “a person with a hearing impairment.” Use People First Language to tell what a person HAS not who a person IS.

Choosing to use the right words is the right thing to do. Using the right words can change perceptions and attitudes. Using the right words can break down barriers and build up friendships.